The age old debate of free will vs destiny still rages on today. I believe both have their place. You can’t sit around waiting for someone or something to show you the way. You’ll be sitting too long and when the lines start appearing on your face they’ll have no stories apart from the laziness that made up your life. On the other hand, I don’t believe you can push your hand too aggressively and get the natural results you dream about. Success takes time and premature success can be an ugly albatross around your neck. Balance is the secret to happiness in life. When your dreams don’t materialize right away, you need to be string enough to sleep and keep plugging away another day. You must do this for as long as it takes if you want to achieve your dreams. Continue reading Make it Happen Let it Happen
If you only know three chords on the guitar, hit them with all you’ve got. Jazz chords sound good but when it comes to singalongs, 3 simple chords draw the group together. You might compare this to life. Instead of going out and joining a gym, why not do pushups, situps, and walk around your neighborhood each day. We make excuses for not starting to get healthy and before we know it, disease develops. As a teacher, I hear a lot about what kids can’t do because of various excuses. Why not focus of what you can do, I tell this to my 10 year old students. A visual example is an eraser. If a 4th grade student doesn’t have an eraser, she/he can become preoccupied with this fact. They won’t write a word more until they have a way to erase mistakes. Instead of giving these kids an eraser, I tell them to cross out the mistake and get to writing. I see a real parallel to how I handle tasks in life. I wait until I have the perfect computer to get into blogging. I wait until I have enough money to splurge before I shop. It’s a better road when you keep it simple and start down the road toward your dreams right now. Continue reading Keep it Simple
One of the life benefits of being a teacher is that I have learned to see things from many different perspectives. In my case, it’s been kid perspectives but if you teach, you generally have to analyze and consider the wants and needs of learners in your classroom if you are going to be successful. You could say the same benefit comes from staying married. Anyone can get married but it takes a strong consideration of your spouse’s needs, on both sides, to keep a marriage alive. My wife and I went to a Gottman seminar for married couples. Gottman did research in the 70’s and 80’s with couples living in a house wired with cameras, infrared detectors, and other stuff. Part of the day they would check their blood pressure and they had holter monitors to monitor their pulse. He learned it takes a 5:1 ratio of positive experiences to negative ones to keep vital signs healthy and happy. It takes a lot of bridge crossing to understand my wife and I know the converse is true of me. We do it because we love each other and we don’t like to fight. People need to cross bridges everyday to avoid conflict and promote health in their daily relationships. Are they willing to do it? I’d some some more than others. Continue reading Cross the Bridge?
Daring To Be Simple – Everyday Gyaan Corinne offers a simple suggestion for clarity and peace in ones life: keeping things simple. She’s a mentor to so many bloggers, including me, and this is another in a long line of great posts. Check it out.
January Blue | Jennifer’s Journal. Jennifer’s is a blog I recently started reading. I’ve read a lot of posts with the theme “blue.” This one is certainly worth a read. I’m so happy to be following a new and talented online diarist.
Of Fear & Failure. Jack is a talented blogger whose humility belies his accomplishments. This is another excellent post of his.
Stream of Consciousness Saturday: Opposites | The Sound of One Hand Typing. John Holton is a great writer. He has honed his discipline and writes in a descriptive, smart voice about his life. I’m glad I discovered his blog a couple months ago. This post on opposites is a great read. Continue reading Blog Safari 1-17-15
Life is a roller coaster in that it’s a long wait sometimes for the ride. It also gets your blood pumping once you’re on. Disneyland used to have e tickets for the cool thrill rides like Matterhorn and Space Mountain. Through time, they did away with that system and incorporated attendance fees that gave you access to all rides. I remember gathering the e tickets and waiting in like for the Matterhorn. For a child, that was a terrifying experience. You’d hear the screaming cars come out of the mountain and return into it as the bellowing sound of Bigfoot engulfed them. You knew you were next. In life it is this way. You watch people doing the things you dream of doing and you wonder if they ever had fear like you. I’ve never been very good at public speaking and yet, I’ve always wanted to speak on behalf of teachers, and people in need. I have no problem doing it in my classroom but speaking to other adults in a persuasive fashion has long eluded me. I enjoy watching ordinary people speak in persuasive ways and I have see this through being involved with my teachers union. I aspire to that. Continue reading Life as Roller Coaster