Why I Keep Calm and Blog On

I don’t write in my blog when I have no good ideas. More than that, I have no powerful inspiration. This is a shame because ideas are golden and setting them down on my blog is a catalyst. They stay alive that way.

keep calm and blog on 8 x 10I have often wondered if an idea really happened when I didn’t blog it. This is sort of like the old adage of whether a tree falling in a forest makes a sound. I think now more than ever, bloggers should get motivated and write as much as possible. As we travel through scary stuff like bombings and school shootings (just to name a couple) we need to speak to our world, our audience to produce awareness. How can we expect to solve anything unless we write. At this day in age, productive writing like this is nothing other than blogging. Even if my audience is small, blogging changes me for the good. It allows me to formulate answers to life’s unsolvable riddles.

But there are deterrents. Getting home sometimes I prefer watching brain dead television to formulating thoughts on screen. The demands of being a teacher and dad sometimes outweigh my once-excitement to publish on my blogs. Then there is the issue of traffic. I have seen my traffic drop proportionately with my lapse of writing. It’s still there but not as much as the 300-500 visits a day I once enjoyed. There are all sorts of reasons to stop blogging but I’m not going to accept them. By staying regular at this, I hope to change the world, even if it is only the microcosm world inside my own psyche.

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As They Are, We Once Were: Teenagers

Teens "Batmanning."

Teens “Batmanning.”

I see teens every day serving me coffee, helping me in various lines at low paid places. They do a lot for society, I give them that. At the same time, I see them on television (and one at my home in front of that television) who I have to ask myself, “What purpose do these mini-adults play?” I know they must do something I just haven’t quite figured it out yet. I see them with their cell phones, that is probably the biggest confusion for me. Last I checked, my cell phone bill was quite high in comparison to car insurance and other bills kids might have. My question is: “Why are parents paying these bills?” Kids are using them in high school between and during class. They are also doing extreme piercings, Batmanning, and a handful of other strange and/or troubling trends. But is it “just kids?” Should we turn a blind eye? Maybe. I think about how odd I was at times as a teen. I know these are the future leaders of our society. I’m into my 40′s now and my generation are not running the entire world like we used to. We should nurture and encourage our teenager population. Let’s follow Lennon’s advice: “All you need is love.” But should we accept the attitudes and the phone bills? Food for thought.

We can’t affect the who world with one intention but we can help what’s going on in our own homes. We need to talk to our teens and find out what makes them tick. I need to remember (as do we all) that they are good people just having a hard time growing up. I mean, do you ever notice a teen who is having no trouble? Who is working and living respectfully and keeps her/his cell phone in the pocket! The most important thing we should reward teens for is respect. We need them and they need us. Together, we can and will change the world. Make “patience” your mantra with teens. They are amazing people in process to becoming amazing contributors to society.

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6 Reasons to Quit Your Band and/or Music Aspirations

tumblr_mlkttbqG7v1qd56t2o1_500Most musicians try their hand at being in a band. This happens with mixed results across the land. In my case, I recently accepted after my 40′s had started and almost 3 decades of music pursuit had passed that music was no longer a fire in the belly, neither was a band. Sure, I sill play here and there but not with the tenacity I once had. This decision to quit music as an ideal was probably the best, most freeing things I have ever done for my own psychology. I am not saying everyone should quit, in fact I respect anyone with the strength to see a dream through. Here’s why I quit:

  • When you’re in your 40′s. People really like an established band like Aerosmith to go on tour. No one gives a sh** about the Sultans of Swing that play birthdays and private parties. Oh, and they’re 43.The dream has died, give private lessons or have fun with a barstool, some fun effects pedals in your garage. People don’t care to see your strained face anymore. Face it, life after the band delusion is NOT SO BAD. Hanging onto it indefinitely is.
  • You’ll never make money on record or CD sales again. This is where we are with technology. In the future, due to piracy, the only money to be made in music will be for monster bands playing live shows. Maybe sad but that’s how it is … stop crying.
  • Free your spouse from the strain and malaise. They may support you to the bitter end. Travel somewhere with them. Contrary to popular belief, rich rock stars are not the only happy people on earth. We’re all wasting away, in a sense. As Pink Floyd said: “80 years with luck or even less.” Stop grinding your heartbeats away dreaming of fame and lavish performances when you have a spouse you can rock with. Trust me, it’s the little things in life you remember and that count. World tours seem neat but they are for one in a million. Should the rest of us suffer?
  • Your hands are getting stiffer and most of us are sucking at our instruments. You could practice every day but … why? Your hair is graying/balding. Why not leave rock and roll to the 20-30 somethings as it was initially intended. You can live a stress free life letting rock and roll go. Listen all you want but let it go and feel the weight come off your shoulders. Find out what life initially had to offer before you started your quest to make it big in music with your band.
  • Most likely your band sucks. If you haven’t figured it out by now, maybe this post will help you come that conclusion. Why stress yourself out trying to “make it.”
  • It’s a huge expense of time and money. Give people around you more time (not in your band) as well as your family. Say what you want, “bands” take up huge amounts time and resources. I’m here to tell you people are worth far more than an EP and even an album.

Musicians, remember your life away from the guitar or band? Get back to that business. That is the best place to hang out and spend your time and energy. Being in a band can be a sickness, especially after a certain age. I know from personal experience.

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My Often Failed Art of Making Friends on Social Media

red-face-tvI think in 2013, a sense of alienation from other people is real. I can only speak for myself but every day I get more disenfranchised with Facebook and social media. It’s not that there aren’t cool tools for uploading photos and statuses. Rather, Facebook friends rarely comment on the great stuff (great in my opinion anyway) I put up. I post under the assumption that many more will read it than will comment on it. That leaves me in a bit of an alienated state where I can only guess who’s reading. If you are reading this, do comment it will be much appreciated. After an hour of posting to social media, I use Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter and a few others, I often find myself forlorn for people like myself. I do have a few die-hard followers and commenters but for the most part, I end up with very few comments and that makes me feel defeated, I am ashamed to admit.

logo_facebookI often think about where “my peeps” might be in this big old world of social media. Everyone probably does. I remember reading a novel in 4th grade that stated each person has a twin somewhere in the world. If that were true it would be so cool to find mine. We could chat and laugh about how people used to tease us for being skinny. We could relate with the teasing of having the name “Damien.” In the same vein we could laugh about how we never found a personalized sign at a gas station with out name on it. Perhaps cloning could create this scenario? Or maybe not. Whether found or cloned, this would be an amazing experience. It seems like it shouldn’t be so hard to find connections on social media.

keep calm and blog on 8 x 10You might say I seek this experience on social media. So far I have connected with hundreds of people, some who have long since unfriended me, that have stuff in common with me. I maintain about 100 Facebook friends which is a cool number. In truth however, I only get comments from and I only interact with about 15 on a regular basis. Many will claim that is a small number but I think most people can only handle about 15 in their daily interactions. I have 3 blogs I also maintain for longer, more thought out ideas.

My action plan for social media is this:

  1. Post interesting and noteworthy content. Just like a blog, you should make your content worth reading. Stuff like, “Just got to the bank.” is boring and should be spruced up maybe with a photo, quote, or factoid. Get a reputation for posting cool stuff and people will read and comment.
  2. Cross post to other networks. I use Hootsuite to do this with a couple. The more networks that read you, the more likely you are to get comments.
  3. Have a source(s) for media. Tumblr is my favorite source for reposting photos and quotes. Unless you are a celebrity, people don’t care so much bout text statuses alone.
  4. Reblog/share good posts. You can overdo this on Facebook and Twitter. Tumblr is the place to do this as much as you like.
  5. Make a time spaced posting limit. Mine is 30 minutes. Don’t burn people out. At the same time, if your stuff is good, people probably won’t mind.

I really enjoy sharing on social media and I put a lot of thought into everything I post. Care to follow me? You can find my feeds here and other places:

@rileycentral on Twitter. Anyone can follow my tweets.

cre8nnov8 on Tumblr. Anyone can follow my Tumblr photos and text.

rileycentral.net – Aggregate site of all my blogs and online writing, as published in real time. Public blog, can follow by RSS feed.

logo_facebook Non-public. Must request to be my mutual friend. Reserved for people I know well online or in real life.

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Some Thoughts on Modern Connections, Ebert’s Passing, and Social Media

tumblr_mhs0adnmKE1qj6juso1_500Never in time has it been more evident that in fact, to quote John Lennon, “Nothing is real.” Modern connections between humans have become reduced to kilobyte statuses. We exist insofar as we are perceived by others. If a tree falls in the forest and there is no one there to hear it, does it make a sound? And so are our lives. Some make a bigger splash than others on Facebook or Twitter or even Pinterest but no one really exists outside of these windows. In a way, we have realized “the Matrix” in reality and it doesn’t matter if we think it right or wrong: C’est la vie.

roger-ebert-jaw-cancer-photo-esquire-0310-lgYesterday we lost Roger Ebert, a revolutionary film critic. In the last few years of his life he made the most of social media. He had nearly one million Twitter followers. That meant people “saw” him. Or did they? A few years ago cancer made it impossible for him to eat or drink. He learned to cook his stomach tube bag meals in a rice cooker and wrote a book of recipes about it. All this for the benefit of others since he himself could not taste. Was Twitter there when his lovely wife Chaz helped him feed in this unsightly way? I doubt it. How about Facebook? When Cancer was taking its final toll on his body, did Facebook give us a real picture? Certainly not. Everyone presents themselves in the most attractive manner possible on social media and Ebert was one of the best at it. You don’t get one million followers by describing your disfigurement. Frankly, people don’t want to be bothered with stuff that is too gritty, too real, too much of a reminder of our own impending end. What I do admire about Ebert’s social media presence was that he crafted his “brand.” Let’s face it, if you can’t really connect with too many people in a “real” flesh and bone way, why not profit? Ebert was able to coddle his own “brand” if-you-will and I along with millions of other movie goers have gotten used to checking how many stars he gave a movie and reading his take of why the movie sucked or not.

PhotoFunia-341f1aSo, at the end of the day even after millions of followers on social media, we still have only a glimpse of the frail movie critic that died yesterday. It’s a reminder that all the time we spend on social media may be a complete waste. Who are we really? I might say, we are nothing at all and still what we imagine. While I myself enjoy Twitter and Facebook (and aspiring to blog with the likes of Ebert), it’s important to realize that we do not exist the way we think we do. For every person that reads our stuff, there exists a different “me.” I find that somewhat pathetic and a sobering reminder to spend time in the real world with real people as much as possible. I hope society trends back that way. The internet can make a regular Joe a hero or a hero like Ebert a regular Joe. Whether you seek to profit from your “brand” online or just let people know what you are doing, Ebert’s passing reminds us we get about 70 years and no more. I imagine even Ebert’s home feeds will fade in time, possibly being taken down or just neglected and ignored. He was a great film critic and a pioneer of social media but that couldn’t prevent him from taking his last breath. It negs the question … what is worth doing in your lifetime? Thank you Ebert for making that question evident and relevant to me.

Shameless plug: Please visit my own growing movie reviews archive, highly inspired by Ebert. May he rest in peace.

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Vegas Day 3 – Welcome to Their Machine

The best place a guy could hope to be is “in the game.” In other words: working, consuming, producing, etc. I feel like I am in the game at this stage of my life. There’ve been a couple times I’ve been out of the game and they were boring. The game is tough, it requires work but you sleep better at night and your food tastes better. Knowing you’re doing your best to play your part in the world. Being in Vegas I see thousands of people in the resorts who are “in the game.” Most are smiling. Whatever job I’m given to do, I hope I can do it well and play my part in the game. The game is good, I get satisfaction from it. Do it. Now time for your comment!

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Night 2 in Vegas Epic Burger & Show

Since I blogged last, we got on a tram and went to Planet Hollywood to walk around. We ate at Cheeseburger Las Vegas which totally lived up to the promotion. My burger was ethereal. After that, we walked around looking at souvenir shops and had some Ben n Jerry’s. Now we’re in line to see a “Variety” show. I’m tired but we have 2 more days at the Rio before the trek home. We might do some gambling later but we aren’t gonna die if we don’t. It is priceless to be spending time with my family. They are THE best!

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Vacation Plus Data Makes One Teacher Better

It got a little windy but good times were had by all. The family pool has several artificial waterfalls and is heated to about 80. There is a small jacuzzi and then a heated pool in the shape of an Angel Fish. It was a nice morning to contemplate my job and how I can do it better. Who knows what tonight holds in store. We got tickets to see a variety show. Watch this prime space for more photos and updates. ;)

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Easter 2013 Day 2 in Vegas

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Easter has always been a time to welcome Spring. Best of all, that means it’s not so cold in the morning. We spent the night at the Rio last night. I’m feeling full of life this Easter. Watch this space for many more photos over our 3 day stay in the coming days.
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Bad Economy and High Hopes

img001What if we had less fear of the bad economy? What if we lived in the moment and hoped for more … and what if that happened? What if none of our fears ever materialized? Obviously for some, fears have materialized. My heart goes out to those people. If you have lost your job, I feel for you. I hope things end up better for you around the bend.

Wherever we are on the job spectrum, people are hurting (that’s for certain to quote Jakob Dylan). This can be a time of empowerment or a death sentence, that’s up to your positive mind. I once heard Geraldo speak to losing his job and staying positive. When he was fired after the fiasco called “Al Capone’s Vault” and recalled how his father was fired at about the same age. He saw his dad wither away and die in his 40′s (or 50′s I don’t recall but it was too young). He vowed to be tenacious and stay in the game. He did it and his success ever since that event is self-evident. Even in a bad economy, we can have high hopes.

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